Very relatable. I go back and forth from wanting a close circle of friends (always imagined that ‘sex in the city’ group as something I wanted.. but more often now i seem to lean in to peace and harmony with my pets, partner and myself. Problem is- I want both but lack the energy to keep up with everything-and the older I get the faster the days go!! Anyway, honored to consider you a friend with common interests and motivations.
Ha! 😁 I've often wished for that close circle of friends a la SITC or maybe Friends or some other show (Golden Girls?), but at the same time am very happy and comfortable in my routines of alone time and family time and time with my honey. It's a quandary, to be sure. And interesting that we take our cues on what we think friendship *should* be from TV shows. Hmmm ...
Honored to consider you a friend as well, my fellow music lover. xo
You mention that we assume people aren’t open for new friends, which limits us. I hadn’t thought of that.
I didn’t make any real friends until I hit 45. Now I have almost a handful. As you said, it’s a lot of work being friends, and most people don’t bother to make it a priority. Then there’s the issue of finding humans with compatible likes and lifestyles. I’ve met people who would love to hang out ALL THE TIME but we just don’t have much in common.
SO many people assume that everyone already has all the friends they want/need. Even my daughter - who is a junior in college and in what most would consider her prime friend-making years - has the same perception.
And - yes - finding people with compatible likes and lifestyles is a challenge. The older we get the more set in our ways we become ... narrowing what we'll accept. Sometimes I feel like my best chance might be to just break completely out of my comfort zone. And then I retreat to my couch and my comfortable routines. 😉
I was a young woman who did carry over friends from my youth. And yet, at this stage of life most of us have still parted ways for various reasons. I'm also moving and that feels like starting over again in the friend department. And I also enjoy time alone and time with my spouse. It's a tricky balance.
I've heard it said that not every friend is meant to stay with us our whole lives, but - rather - they come into our lives when we need them and then move on. I have a feeling that might be true.
I hope your move goes smoothly. Moving is such a stressful process for so many reasons, including the feeling of starting over. I hope it feels more like an exciting new adventure than a scary challenge. xo
Very relatable. I go back and forth from wanting a close circle of friends (always imagined that ‘sex in the city’ group as something I wanted.. but more often now i seem to lean in to peace and harmony with my pets, partner and myself. Problem is- I want both but lack the energy to keep up with everything-and the older I get the faster the days go!! Anyway, honored to consider you a friend with common interests and motivations.
Ha! 😁 I've often wished for that close circle of friends a la SITC or maybe Friends or some other show (Golden Girls?), but at the same time am very happy and comfortable in my routines of alone time and family time and time with my honey. It's a quandary, to be sure. And interesting that we take our cues on what we think friendship *should* be from TV shows. Hmmm ...
Honored to consider you a friend as well, my fellow music lover. xo
You mention that we assume people aren’t open for new friends, which limits us. I hadn’t thought of that.
I didn’t make any real friends until I hit 45. Now I have almost a handful. As you said, it’s a lot of work being friends, and most people don’t bother to make it a priority. Then there’s the issue of finding humans with compatible likes and lifestyles. I’ve met people who would love to hang out ALL THE TIME but we just don’t have much in common.
SO many people assume that everyone already has all the friends they want/need. Even my daughter - who is a junior in college and in what most would consider her prime friend-making years - has the same perception.
And - yes - finding people with compatible likes and lifestyles is a challenge. The older we get the more set in our ways we become ... narrowing what we'll accept. Sometimes I feel like my best chance might be to just break completely out of my comfort zone. And then I retreat to my couch and my comfortable routines. 😉
I was a young woman who did carry over friends from my youth. And yet, at this stage of life most of us have still parted ways for various reasons. I'm also moving and that feels like starting over again in the friend department. And I also enjoy time alone and time with my spouse. It's a tricky balance.
I've heard it said that not every friend is meant to stay with us our whole lives, but - rather - they come into our lives when we need them and then move on. I have a feeling that might be true.
I hope your move goes smoothly. Moving is such a stressful process for so many reasons, including the feeling of starting over. I hope it feels more like an exciting new adventure than a scary challenge. xo